There’s an event in near-death experiences that indicates a way to get better understanding from daily life.
One of the most common things people recall in a near-death experience is going through a review of their lives, often called “a life review”. Many go through it in minute detail, recalling every event.
Most describe how much they’ve learned from it and what a positive experience it was. But there’s actually a way to learn like this in every day of our lives by reviewing the day, at the end of each day.
What people tend to say matters most when they review their lives after death are simple things, such as how much they’ve loved, what good they did, how they hurt others, what they felt, and how they made other people feel.
This is what they say is really important. It’s not how much money they earned or what career they achieved, but it’s more to do with interactions with people, such as what emotions they felt, what they did to others and especially how they loved.
It’s easy to get carried away each day with material things and how a person treats others can seem secondary, but what really mattered to those in NDEs was how they treated other people, even in the times when the effect they had upon others was subtle.
To understand more about how you live, how you really are, and what’s important in life, it helps to do a review at the end of every day by going back over it to see how you thought, felt and acted.
In NDE life reviews, people often feel each of their emotions and the consequences of their actions ultra-intensively; there’s clearly an extra help present to enable them to feel in that way.
Although it’s difficult to feel that intensively here, a review of the past can still bring positive understanding, leading to what many describe in NDEs as a feeling of repentance, and after that, a resolve to want to change.
And even if you don’t believe NDEs are real, a daily review can still be just as useful. It’s also worth learning to have out-of-body experiences such as astral projection, as they could change your perspective on NDEs and life beyond the physical world.
How to Do a Review of the Day
You could go back over the day now and then in a relaxed and informal way, but it can help if you treat it as a daily exercise.
To do this, sit or lie comfortably, relax, then go back over your day, recalling and studying the events and inner states you went through.
You could either start at the beginning of the day and work your way to the present, or start from the present time and work your way back—whichever you are most comfortable with.
Follow the timeline going through events in the order they happened.
It’s especially useful to look for what inner states (egos) have appeared in the day, or you could specifically track one or more states. If memories are vague, recall what you can and you may find you can remember more. You will be able to remember better and understand situations or yourself more clearly if you look back in a detached way without getting emotionally involved and impartially seeing how you thought, felt, or acted in any situation and at any time.
You could see whether you’ve been making changes, what inner states you have been in, and how you showed love or hurt to others.
What you see when you look back is determined by what you can remember. If you were aware of your inner state at the time it happened, you’ll be able to remember it better and will have more information about it.
Without being aware of inner states (egos) and harmful actions as they happen, time goes by without gaining knowledge, and in a state of sleep and fascination with the events of daily life. If you’ve had some self-observation, you can get a more detailed picture of your inner states, and the more aware you are of them, the more you can change them.
What to Look for When You Want to See Your Inner States
It’s what’s inside that causes us to act in the ways we do, so to understand your actions look at your inner states. These inner states are not fixed as they may seem to be, negative or harmful states can be changed and even removed, but knowledge of them is required first. When you look back over the day, see the different inner states that have arisen and how they made you act, observe what their effects were upon other people, and how they affected events.
You could also see how you reacted to different situations as they arose, whether you can find any strong emotions, or whether you can spot if there were feelings of negativity behind any of your actions.
Look into your different reactions, emotional outbursts, anger, fear, hatred of others, dishonesty, negativity, etc., and observe as many as you can as you look back over them.
In looking back you can sometimes see an inner state (ego) or a mistake, when at the time you didn’t recognize it, perhaps because you were without awareness and engrossed in the inner state, or perhaps you justified it or excused a wrong action.
If this review is done each day, you’ll become aware of the repetition of actions and see the same states appearing repeatedly.
Doing a Review of a Longer Period in Your Life
You could also look back over a longer time, weeks or even years, to see inner states or actions you want to understand more. You might want to do this if there’s a problem that needs understanding, or you want to discover why certain feelings or attitudes developed, or to see how your life has been affected by a state or action.
Any inner state can be followed back in time to see its repetition, looking back to see where, when, and how it appeared, and what it made you do. If relevant, you can also look at the consequences of any actions or possible actions that state has had, even looking back over the history of it throughout your life and what it has done to you.
Before you start, choose the time and what you are going to be looking for, such as actions, events, and inner states.
Study the period of time and what arises in it objectively. Be a detached, neutral observer, and look back upon what’s happened during that time as if you were watching a movie, but without getting fascinated or involved in the scenes that pass by.
When you try to understand a certain inner state, it can be useful to examine how it has acted in the past; it can even be taken as far back as your earliest memory of it. You can trace its first manifestations in you; see how it developed, how it affected your behavior, and what situations and events it caused in your life.
This exercise also helps to strengthen dream recall, where you look back over your dreams after you’ve woken up. A review of dreams is particularly useful for self-understanding, it can show the hidden inner states, ones which are often overlooked, as in dreams the subconscious is free to roam without many of the constraints of the physical world.
Judgment and Repentance
After going through a life review, some in NDEs recall going through a judgment and seeing a book of their deeds in which everything they did in life was recorded daily. This book becomes a book of the accounts of the good and bad of their lives. Most feel a great sense of remorse and repentance when they see the mistakes they made in their life that had passed, and when coming back to life, they usually vow to change their mistakes.
Just as accounts are made in the book there, it’s worth us taking account of what we do here and making a judgment upon it. If you see something you really don’t want, then like those in NDEs you’ll probably feel like changing, both in the way you act and in what you feel inside.